Friday, September 17, 2010

Loving Children not "Our Own"

To those of you who have adopted, you have probably had to read state-required materials which talk all about attachment, bonding, and the like. The main goal behind such literature (in my mind) is to give adoptive parents tools to create a relationship that is unnatural (ie two strangers coming together through the process of adoption) into something that is natural (the bond between parent and child). Because of these readings, and before adopting Kaden and Makyra, I wondered to myself, "Will I be able to love a 'random' child from across the world in the same way I could love a biological child?"

As a Christian, I would say, "Definitely." And it isn't because of the tips that were suggested in these adoption materials (although these materials have their place) but it is because I know Love himself.

"God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him." 1 John 4:16b

If God is the very source of all true love and God abides in me, then I have the ability to not only genuinely love my adopted children, but I even have the supernatural ability to love my enemies. I can truly love my children, because I have been truly loved by God.

"We love because he first loved us." 1 John 4:19

And these words have been proved true in my life. I am surprised by how much love I have for Kaden and Makyra and I wouldn't change a thing about them. I love the fact that the Lord has picked out children for us from across the globe, put them in our home to care for, and given us a heart that is eager to "bear all things, hope all things, endure all things." We can't imagine loving them any more than we already do!

So, to any out there who may be (secretly) wondering if you should adopt because you just don't know if you could love a child as much as your biological child or whatever, I assure you - if you know the Lord then you can! Love for anyone, whether that be a spouse, an enemy, a biological child, an adopted child, or whomever is possible for those who have been loved by God. Love for an adopted child may not be natural, but the Lord loves to give grace to do things that are supernatural.

May the world look at the Church's love for adopted children and know that there is a supernatural love at work!

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Referrals!!

We just wanted to let everyone know that we received referrals for a one week old baby girl and a 6 week old baby boy. The adoption agency said we would probably get a court date in December then travel to bring them home six weeks later. So we could have them as early as January! Wow, this is going fast...thank you Lord!

We are going to name the little boy Elijah (Eli) Daniel. Elijah is in honor of the righteous prophet who the Lord used to take out the prophets of Baal in 1 Kings 18 and Daniel is after my dad and my brother, both of whom I love dearly.

And the little girl we are going to name Zoey Lindsay. Zoey means life, which we felt was fitting being the Lord was merciful to give her life in the midst of extremely difficult circumstances. And Lindsay is after Lindsay Liles at Immanuel Baptist.

Here is a little history of Lindsay...she spent some time in Ethiopia doing mission work and she witnessed many children sick and dying due to the living conditions of the village she was working in. She told me that she went to bed crying because of how impossible it seemed to help these children. She said that she prayed and prayed that the Lord would do something..she didn't know what - but she knew that he was able to care for these little ones. Later on, Ethiopia opened up to international adoptions, and years after that Lindsay found herself at Immanuel Baptist where several members are adopting babies from Ethiopia. She told me that not only had the Lord answered her prayer to rescue these children, but he even put her at a church where she could see before her eyes many answers to her prayers. Would we even have Kaden, Makyra, Eli, and Zoey if it weren't for Lindsay's prayers?

So, we want Zoey to be named in Lindsay's honor because we want her, and our whole family for that matter, to remember that the Lord does hear our prayers. Even when we don't know how he is going to answer them, we know that he can and we know that he loves to answer prayer. There is nothing impossible with our God so let's follow Lindsay's example and ask the Lord for great and impossible things!

"The prayer off a righteous person has great power as it is working" (James 5:16)

Stacey

PS If you'd like to see pics please email me at staceyahare@yahoo.com