Monday, November 29, 2010

Court Date!!

We just heard from our adoption agency that we received a January 25th court date. Dave'll be traveling to Ethiopia to appear before the court and if we pass then we will be bringing Elias and Zoey home 6 weeks later. Please pray we pass!

Friday, September 17, 2010

Loving Children not "Our Own"

To those of you who have adopted, you have probably had to read state-required materials which talk all about attachment, bonding, and the like. The main goal behind such literature (in my mind) is to give adoptive parents tools to create a relationship that is unnatural (ie two strangers coming together through the process of adoption) into something that is natural (the bond between parent and child). Because of these readings, and before adopting Kaden and Makyra, I wondered to myself, "Will I be able to love a 'random' child from across the world in the same way I could love a biological child?"

As a Christian, I would say, "Definitely." And it isn't because of the tips that were suggested in these adoption materials (although these materials have their place) but it is because I know Love himself.

"God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him." 1 John 4:16b

If God is the very source of all true love and God abides in me, then I have the ability to not only genuinely love my adopted children, but I even have the supernatural ability to love my enemies. I can truly love my children, because I have been truly loved by God.

"We love because he first loved us." 1 John 4:19

And these words have been proved true in my life. I am surprised by how much love I have for Kaden and Makyra and I wouldn't change a thing about them. I love the fact that the Lord has picked out children for us from across the globe, put them in our home to care for, and given us a heart that is eager to "bear all things, hope all things, endure all things." We can't imagine loving them any more than we already do!

So, to any out there who may be (secretly) wondering if you should adopt because you just don't know if you could love a child as much as your biological child or whatever, I assure you - if you know the Lord then you can! Love for anyone, whether that be a spouse, an enemy, a biological child, an adopted child, or whomever is possible for those who have been loved by God. Love for an adopted child may not be natural, but the Lord loves to give grace to do things that are supernatural.

May the world look at the Church's love for adopted children and know that there is a supernatural love at work!

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Referrals!!

We just wanted to let everyone know that we received referrals for a one week old baby girl and a 6 week old baby boy. The adoption agency said we would probably get a court date in December then travel to bring them home six weeks later. So we could have them as early as January! Wow, this is going fast...thank you Lord!

We are going to name the little boy Elijah (Eli) Daniel. Elijah is in honor of the righteous prophet who the Lord used to take out the prophets of Baal in 1 Kings 18 and Daniel is after my dad and my brother, both of whom I love dearly.

And the little girl we are going to name Zoey Lindsay. Zoey means life, which we felt was fitting being the Lord was merciful to give her life in the midst of extremely difficult circumstances. And Lindsay is after Lindsay Liles at Immanuel Baptist.

Here is a little history of Lindsay...she spent some time in Ethiopia doing mission work and she witnessed many children sick and dying due to the living conditions of the village she was working in. She told me that she went to bed crying because of how impossible it seemed to help these children. She said that she prayed and prayed that the Lord would do something..she didn't know what - but she knew that he was able to care for these little ones. Later on, Ethiopia opened up to international adoptions, and years after that Lindsay found herself at Immanuel Baptist where several members are adopting babies from Ethiopia. She told me that not only had the Lord answered her prayer to rescue these children, but he even put her at a church where she could see before her eyes many answers to her prayers. Would we even have Kaden, Makyra, Eli, and Zoey if it weren't for Lindsay's prayers?

So, we want Zoey to be named in Lindsay's honor because we want her, and our whole family for that matter, to remember that the Lord does hear our prayers. Even when we don't know how he is going to answer them, we know that he can and we know that he loves to answer prayer. There is nothing impossible with our God so let's follow Lindsay's example and ask the Lord for great and impossible things!

"The prayer off a righteous person has great power as it is working" (James 5:16)

Stacey

PS If you'd like to see pics please email me at staceyahare@yahoo.com

Monday, August 30, 2010

Know any Good Baby Names?

We need your help! We have been able to successfully come up with middle names for our two future kiddos, but we haven't been able to decide on first names. We'd love to get some feedback from our friends and family...

Which boy name do you like the best:
Ethan, Tyler, James, Timothy, Luke, Levi or Eli?

Do you have any other boy name suggestions?

And do you like the name Jada for a girl? If so, which spelling do you like the best:

Jayda or Jada

Do you have any other girl name suggestions?

Thanks so much!

Friday, June 25, 2010

We're Adopting Again!

Well we have started the paperwork process to adopt two more babies from Ethiopia. We know that this is pretty wild.

Missionaries on the field and our adoption agency highly highly discouraged from trying to adopt once we were on the mission field but instead encouraged us to adopt before we go to the field (which would be now). It is slightly intimidating to have four children under the age of 2 or 3 but we are banking on the grace of God to prove sufficient.

What drove us to this decision is the fact that there are 5 million little people, made in the image of our great God, who are starving to death in Ethiopia. This is a plain and simple fact that I personally cannot get over. Yes I know that there are people who are starving all over the world, but I've had more interaction with those in need in Ethiopia due to our previous adoptions. And since I can't help all, I know I can help some. I did a google image search for "Ethiopian orphans" and saw pictures children sick and starving...and they looked like little Kaden and Makyra. We know life would be very complex and difficult having 4 young children (on the mission field!) but it is worth it to us when it comes to saving two lives. We believe the Lord cares deeply for the orphan and therefore we believe that he will give us what we need as we seek to care for them.

As we have enjoyed parenting Kaden and Makyra these past 7 months we are constantly reminded of God’s particular concern for the oppressed and afflicted. Their very lives prove that he truly is a father to the fatherless. However, while we praise the Lord for saving the lives of our children, we are not able to forget the many many children in the world who are still alone, starving, defenseless, and without the Gospel. This reality has led us to again adopt two more children from Ethiopia. There are two key Scriptures that have led us to adopt a second time. As I was talking to a friend (Julie Robbins) about the possibility of adopting more, she referred me to this passage as she urged me to adopt:

“Blessed is the one who considers the poor! In the day of trouble the LORD delivers him; the LORD protects him and keeps him alive; he is called blessed in the land; you do not give him up to the will of his enemies.” - Psalm 41:1-2

She told me that those who consider the poor are blessed by the Lord and will be delivered, protected, kept alive, and kept safe from enemies. She encouraged me to not think about the next 18 years of paying for braces and college but instead to live in service to the poor and to rely on the Lord to provide for our needs. Another Scripture that has led us to adopt again is found in 2 Corinthians 9:8. It says:

"And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work."

We take the next step in adopting two more kids assuming God's grace will be there for us to abound in the good work of parenting and translating his Word.

Something Dave said to me as we were thinking through this was that at the end of our lives the Lord isn't going to say "Well Dave and Stacey you aimed too high. You sought to pursue things that were beyond my power. You should have settled for less, attempted fewer things for my glory."

No, if God is able to multiply daily the flour and oil in the widows jar then he is able to provide for our family. If he is able to shut the mouths of lions then he is able to keep us from harm. If he is able to save us from sin and death then he is able to give us the strength to be godly examples to our four children. Reading the miracles in the Bible has strengthened our faith and reminded us that there is nothing too great for our God and this God "gives power to the faint [us]" (Isa 40).

We ask those of you who read our blog (thank you for caring by the way) to keep us in your prayers...


  • Please pray that the Lord will provide financially for these adoptions ($40,000ish).
  • Please pray that the Lord would give us much grace to faithfully teach our children the Word, to discipline them in love, and to have the energy to care for their daily needs.
  • Please pray that all 6 of us would have no health concerns that would keep us from going into missions.
  • Please pray that the Lord would provide a godly single lady who would want to go onto the mission field with us and help us with our kids.
To God be the Glory!
Dave and Stacey

Monday, January 18, 2010

Adoption Complete

Well friends, we are back in the states, we have our children and we are no longer in the adoption process. We want to thank everyone for their prayers and support. We could not have done it without you. Christ is honored in your service.

Being that we are no longer "adopting," we won't be using this blog anymore. You can keep up with our family at:

newharefamily.shutterfly.com

You don't need a password anymore for that site and we will keep it up to date.

Again, we love you all,
Dave